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Mom to Mom: What a mess....

My house is never clean. Ever. I cleaned off our dining room table Monday morning and by Monday night it was covered with papers, dog food, bubbles, a variety of markers and Connect Four. The area behind my desk is stacked with boxes and games that make it look like we gave up on unpacking when we moved in – 9 years ago. And you know what? I’m OK with that.

A clean house has never been on my priority list, and with six people living here and having all their stuff here, it’s an effort in futility. Sure, I could spend all day cleaning and recleaning, but to what end? None, I tell you. 

I do try to keep the table clean and the floor swept, I’m not an animal, but I can’t always keep up with the piles of papers that reproduce faster than rabbits.

Sure, I have friends who tell me to excuse the mess when there’s a pair of shoes neatly by the door or a box of cereal is still on the counter. But if that’s how they like it, kudos to them. I tell people they better not come see me and expect a clean house. We live here and work here and play here and it shows.

So, what do I do if I’m not cleaning all day? Well, I work from home, so I’m working. Or I’m cooking, or I’m hauling one of my four children to the dentist, track practice, swim lessons, etc. Or, you know what? I relax and I play that game of Connect Four that’s sitting on the dining room table. It’s my 5-year-old’s favorite game. Maybe we have to move a backpack and glitter pens out of the way, but they’re not going anywhere in a hurry. 

My house is a mess. And I’m OK with that. If you’re not – you’re welcome to come clean it up for me.

Allison Wells is a wife, mother of four and an author. Her motto is "Life is short, eat the Oreos." Visit her online at