Mom to Mom: April Showers
We all go through seasons in our lives, seasons of plenty and of want, seasons of health and of illness, seasons of diapers and of teenagers. It’s normal for parents to feel like they are on a constant rollercoaster of highs and lows.
That’s because life really is a giant ride of highs and lows. We go from the elation of a wedding and newlywedded bliss to a crushing miscarriage that makes you feel all alone in the world. Snuggling your new baby gives way to that first time you feel helpless when you can’t get them to stop crying, which gives way to the overwhelming love you feel at their first real smile. Life is hard when there’s not enough money for groceries, but then a new job promises to erase those financial woes.
It’s all perfectly normal, and I promise you are not alone. Personally, I have been through miscarriages and adoption losses, being on food stamps, depression and anxiety, sick family members, death in the family and more.
These ups and downs might only last a week or two, like a family passing around the flu. But they might last many months if someone is out of work.
But each time something brings me down, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Darkness may seem to stretch on – colic, marital troubles, depression – but eventually you will break above the surface and be able to get that refreshing breath of air.
Those months of caring for a colicky baby will end. The month of constant bad luck will turn. The wondering if you will ever stop counting pennies will ease. Life will change and the world will look rosy again.
If you find yourself in a season of constant rain, constantly feeling downtrodden, please know that there is sunshine coming your way. Things will turn around. Illness ends, finances get better, sassy children become loving again. It’s just a season.
After all, April showers bring May flowers.
Allison Wells is a wife, mother of four and an author. Her motto is "Life is short, eat the Oreos." Visit her online at www.allisonwellswrites.com.