The Rose Model helps Smith House residents focus on the future
Pendleton Place recently partnered with The Rose Model for Healthy Relationships to implement a curriculum for residents at Smith House, the organization’s residential home for teenage girls in foster care. The curriculum integrates dance and movement into a trauma-informed, research-based and sex-positive program to heal, empower and ignite their lives and dreams
Lori Rose, founder of The Rose Model for Healthy Relationships, said the goal of this program is for is for participants to walk away with a roadmap they can use to gauge and improve the health of their relationships with themselves and others. She moved to Greenville in 2016 to devote herself full-time to this work.
“I created The Rose Model as a survivor of intimate partner and sexual violence,” Rose said. “The Rose Model is really about unlocking human potential above all.”
The customizable model includes building blocks that lead to a healthy self and healthy relationships with others.
“The thing we look at is the integration of the concepts of self-awareness, personal growth, healthy relationships and sexual health,” Rose said. “Through the 12-week program, The Rose Model has four main categories.”
Those categories include:
· The Whole Self: This includes inherent worth, core values, strategies like self-compassion and taking charge of goals, dreams and happiness.
· High Regard: This focuses on all sides of the Golden Rule, with the goal of having a toolkit for the values of respect, safety, honesty and freedom and nonviolent communication,
· Dancing: “It’s about action,” Rose said. “When we look at something like positive change, we can talk about it all day long.” This category includes the nurturing it takes to build healthy relationships.
· Magic: “This is where the power of vulnerability lies,” Rose said. “We talk about intimacy here and highest level relationships.”
“I think young people need to hear from a multitude of sources that we believe in them,” Rose said. “Oftentimes when I emphasize with the girls that it’s the central reason I’m there and the reason I changed my career – that I believe in them – a lot of times, that’s not a concept that they’ve heard.”
Rose said she is giving the young women a “torch of agency.”
“I was so confused at how I had gotten into an abusive relationship,” she said. “I had the same realization with sexual violence. When I started to speak out as an advocate and a volunteer, every time I spoke out, I was met with ‘me too’ at every turn. I felt so compelled to pass along the lessons I had learned.”
Rose said violence doesn’t discriminate – it can happen to anyone.
“We do work with multiple age groups and we are aware that violence can happen to any gender,” she said. “We are an inclusive organization and really want to raise an army of people who have healthy relationships.”