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There is an inherent excitement about the value and vision of "new." It is the word of change and progress; it embodies the emotion of better and happier; it carries the passion of advancement and hope.

But sometimes the thrill of "new" does not last very long as "new" becomes old and dated because fashions and concepts change, and, recent innovations become useless and irrelevant as improvements are introduced. In today’s world, things are quickly modified and upgraded, as new inventions, programs, styles and visions are brought to the waiting marketplace.

We anticipate innovation, progress and novelty because updated versions and fashions may be better and safer.

But when we focus on human interactions, we desire stability and predictability in the behavior of those within in our circle of influence, friendships and fellowship. In these early days of the new year, some persons are trying to change and bring that degree of good behavior and predictably that will benefit themselves and those within their circles of relationships.

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Satisfaction and stability in personal relationships depends on the predictability of human behavior. Any changes of habits we desire in others and ourselves, must enrich, enhance and enable healthier human interaction and conduct. Life changes are made based on expectations and anticipations that takes time and thought, and the desire to have better relationships with oneself and others.

When we set goals to change habits and behavior, there is no set time that guarantees desired results. Depending on the habit or behavior to be changed, it can take, days, weeks, months and for some, even years. But one thing that helps in the process of human behavioral change is that we must have a goal. The apostle Paul gives a challenging goal for behavioral change. He says, “that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness” (Ephesians 4:22-24).

It is easier to change things, but when it comes to our habits and lifestyles, there are time proven underlying goals and truths that cannot and should not be changed. There is a proven and tested knowledge base that will never change — it is knowledge of the rules governing good human behavior and relationships.

The Rev. Victor “Ken” Cadette an ordained minister affiliated with the American Baptist Churches of New Jersey. He has been in ministry 40 years. Contact him at

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